I was going to start this update with a big moan about GMG airlines who I was in the most unfortunate position of flying with, or should I say in the end didn’t end up flying with, as they were not given permission to land in Dhaka to take passengers to Bangkok, but more pressing events over the last few days pales that whole experience into insignificance.
In an attempt to escape from the crazy frenzy of Eid shopping I decided to take myself off to Thailand and hibernate at a yoga retreat for a week. I arrived back in Dhaka last Friday and on leaving the airport I heard that the Prime Minister has stepped down from office and Dhaka was burning. I managed to get back to my flat safely but nearby a public bus lay burning and abandoned outside Ramna Police station.
An aunt of mine who was suppposed to be staying with me that night called to say that there was heavy rioting in her area and that her driver was refusing to take her anywhere.
My father who had came out to see me a couple of weeks ago had gone to his village for Eid and was supposed to be at home that evening. I came back to an empty flat and frantic phone calls from my Mother who was beside herself with worry after watching the news and not getting through to him on his mobile all day. The neighbours knocked on the door to tell me that my Dad had come back, forgotton his keys and so left his luggage with them.
At 11pm still no sign of him and then a relative called to ask if I had heard from him as he had called her at 8.30pm to say that he was on his way to Mirpur. She was panicking as Mirpur was particularly volatile and she was concerned that he would get caught up in the violence and riots.
That started a chain of events that lasted till midday the next day when he finally called to say that he was fine. That night I called everyone I knew looking for him and when noone had heard from him, my friend started calling hotels then at 1.30am we went out to look for him in the public hospitals. Never having gone into a state run hospital before the scene was petrifying. Those patients found in the streets- “the unknowns” lay languishing on the floor bleeding, urinating and dying. Those more fortunate with family or friends lay two or three on dirty broken bed. No doctors or nurses from I could see. The smell was horrendous. Even if my father had been found the chances of him surviving till the next morning were slim if he was seriously hurt. I called the British High Commission to notify them that he was missing and also informed a relative who was a retired Police Inspector General so he could try and use any influence he had with the police. My relative was quite pesamistic saying that the police would probably do nothing. The Consular section at the High Commission relentlessly persued the police angle assuring me that the police had to give priority to this as my father was a British citizen but when I went to the Police Station to file the missing person’s report what was most disturbing was the fact that they didn’t ask for any photos and the extent of their search was looking through their list of detainees. In a country where they was no active government and no law and order, the priorities of the police certainly didn’t include a missing UK national. By 10am when he still wasn’t back the worst was feared and a search of the city’s morgues commenced.
By Allah’s grace he came back to me safe and alive. What actually happened I don’t know. He claims that he was on his way to Baitul Mokarum to do some food shopping and decided to stay in a hotel for the night thinking I had missed my flight. The worst of the riots had been in that area where a ‘144′ had been declared. In the 40 years my father has been visiting Dhaka since he left Bangladesh he has never stayed in a hotel particulary when my relatives live nearby and for him not to call anyone is unprecedented. Everyone I have spoken to here susects that he was highkacked and kept for the night. Unfortunately he will not say and never will say what happened to him that night.
This experience has put an entirely new complexion on living in Dhaka. I had always heard about this happening to other people but never expected it to happen to me or someone in my family. All I can do is pray that my friends and family stay safe and for noone else to ever go through this awful experience.
November 1st, 2006 at 2:40 am
Piya,
So sorry to hear about this. Just reading about it was horrifying enough, I can’t imagine what you went through. It puts a whole different shade when it hits our own life. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
November 1st, 2006 at 3:59 am
My father was still at work when I came home during the riots and passed two ‘michils’ on the way. I can only imagine what you must’ve gone through. Your father must be a strong man to be everything in his stride like that. I agree with Asif, reality sinks in when the truth hits home.
I hope you and your family get over this soon. Best regards
November 1st, 2006 at 5:57 am
I can’t think of any reason of someone showing up the next day and not telling anyone if he had been hijacked the previous night…….
On the other hand if it because of fear of repercussion or intimidation from the hijackers convince him to tell the truth so that action can be taken against the people who had hijacked him.
November 1st, 2006 at 6:05 am
(J and K are next to each other on the keyboard)
Obviously you have a better appreciation of the background concening your account, but I can see Nasif’s point. On the face of it why would he hide it. What are the signs that make you / others feel that this was the case?
November 1st, 2006 at 8:03 am
Oh my god Piya! How horrible.
I would say your father needs the comfort of loved ones around him to feel safe and secured again. In my opinion people should avoid asking him any questions and allow him to get over the trauma first. Asking him to re-live it may cause more damage to his stressed mind. Let’s just hope nothing harmful happened to him.
And if there were something that he wishes to keep himself, he must have a very good reason.
Weirdest things happen in BD. No reason to press him right now.
I am so very sorry to hear this.
November 1st, 2006 at 11:28 am
Isn’t Khaledha and Hasina responsible for this riots that lasted 3 days killed 24 people unofficially and destroyed the life of million people all around the country? Can we sue them I will start that if I know how to start the process.Any help here?
Piya as others my prayers and wishes are with you too. I have my family members there too and I know how hard it is to feel whats going on when I don’t get them on phone. I understand what you had gone through with this traumatic situation. As a elder brother my suggestion for you is to be little careful and always no who you are meeting or talking too.Anywhere you go keep your cell phone with you and always inform one or other friends or family member about the place and meetings. Sister I am not making you weak or scared it’s just a suggestion as a brother.I would do the same for my own sister.
Lot of people in Bangladesh took lot of advantage during this type of political turmoil to get their interest served. I wish your dad is fine and we are happy that he is safe and sound now.Give him time someday he will say what happend that night may be this is not the right time for him now.
thanks
Kawser Jamal
http://www.changeBangladesh.com
November 1st, 2006 at 3:50 pm
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